I have Oral Herpes!! :(?

You can pass on the virus to her whether you have an outbreak or not, but if you do have a sore, don't kiss or perform oral sex on her as the risk of infection is much higher. She may or may not already have herpes of the mouth and/or herpes of the genitals, but does not have any breakouts. Some people don't get sores but are a carrier of the virus. Also there are numerous types of this virus, and sometimes it takes someone who has the exact virus as you do to make one or both of you have a flare up.